Good-bye Wallflowers.

2 Apr

This is just something that my mind needs to embark on. I’m sorry. But..

It always annoys me how willing girls are to play the “damsel in distress.” Yes, we girls may not be physically as strong as boys (on average). We are, for the most part, smaller too. Evolutionarily speaking, we are supposed to depend on men to bring us food while we make babies. Historically it has made sense for women to look to men for protection.

However, society now is set up so that we women can support ourselves just as well as men can, if not better. We can be just as independent as men. Even so, many double standards still exist from the time when men were seen as the dominant sex. For example, in high school, boys are still expected to initiate romantic relationships and pay for dates, while girls are expected to be passive and look pretty.

I like the idea of a boy treating me with respect; girls should do the same for them. However, it makes no sense whatsoever that boys should be the only ones to initiate a relationship when girls are just as capable of doing so. Many girls believe it is not their place to approach a crush because of standards that have existed in our society for ages. However, these ideas are outdated and discourage girls from empowering themselves.
It takes courage and confidence to ask someone out, regardless of gender. Whether you’re a girl or a boy, there will always be that uncomfortable feeling of putting yourself on the line, but that’s just part of the dating experience.

I look forward to the day when it’s just as common for a girl to ask a boy out as it is for a boy to ask a girl. I look forward to the day when girls don’t hesitate to approach a love interest, and when shy boys won’t have to assume that they’ll never get a girlfriend if they don’t ask someone out. I look forward to the day when people don’t do double takes every time I explain that I’ve never been asked out but I’ve initiated several relationships. I look forward to the day when girls can, in the eyes of society, be equal to boys when it comes to initiating relationships.

It’s the twenty-first century. We women are no longer fragile dolls who require special treatment. We are capable of just about anything men are. Why shouldn’t we initiate relationships too?


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